Don’t know about you, but sometimes I can be a bit hard on myself. It took some inner work to get to a point where most of the thoughts and words I tell myself (for at least most of the day), were actually nice.
Maybe like me you’re a parent, too. As the mother of an active 6 year old, I do find myself stuck in that grown-up attitude, the “careful of this, beware of that, watch out for this other” kinda thing. While a part of me would love to just jump around with her, the adult one doesn’t let me have fun every time I would like to.
We all have different parts to our personalities that, when kept in balance, can make our lives feel more harmonious and full.
There is a part of us that holds joy and excitement for the simple things in life, much like a 6 year old has. Like going on the swing, laying down on the grass, falling in love with a flower or a ladybug. Enjoying without guilt purely doing nothing else but BEING.
That same part, is at times responsible for the sudden fears of rejection and of making mistakes, for feeling unsafe, for whining for attention, which in turn can make the grown-up part upset because hey, who likes to be called needy, right?
Say hello to your Inner Child!
He (or she) carries treasures and joy within, that are frozen and stuck somewhere within us. Also most of the criticism, the fears, the family learned limiting beliefs, the wounds that were never addressed and healed in our childhood can be found there, too.
We were all once children, and still have that child dwelling within us. But most adults are quite unaware of this. And this lack of conscious relatedness to our own inner child is precisely where so many behavioral, emotional and relationship difficulties stem from.
Stephen Diamond, Ph.D.
Louise Hay, international bestselling author, as well as many other spiritual teachers, says we learn very early on to refuse and separate from that free, raw part of ourselves, because we continuously receive messages that makes us believe there has to be something wrong about being who we are. And so we try to “fit in” by trimming here and there, without much of an understanding.
Ever happened to notice that we seem to point our feet and throw an inner tantrum particularly when it’s time to do something challenging, or new, or different?
I sure do some times!
The good news is that we can change that. Instead of scolding and criticizing ourselves – or our scared and not always collaborative Inner Child – we can learn how to aknowledge it while bringing more love and acceptance to it.
That love and acceptance can create a miracle of oneness.
It means we can stop to feel fragmented and finally begin to embrace who we are from a place of understanding instead of one of judgement. Dealing with relationships and other important aspects of our lives gets easier and smoother.
And it all can begin just by playing!
If you wish to learn how to create a stronger connection with your Inner Child, while possibly healing some of the negative messages that might be holding you back from a more fulfilling life, you can do that by making some room in your life for those activities you loved to do as a child.
In fact, most of us still crave that time solely dedicated to creativity, or wandering or reading, to name a few.
When we understand why it’s so important to make time for those activities, it’ll be more difficult to make excuses.
I will be offering an introductory workshop at Songbird Healing Center in Cotati, CA on Friday, June 16th.
We will explore the foundation of self-love and how to bring more of its healing energy into our lives. This will include ways to connect to our Inner Child.
Come play with us!
Donations welcomed, RSVP required. For more information, click here.