Have you ever wondered why you keep finding yourself in the same situations over and over again?
If so, then this article will help you understand what limiting beliefs are and how they put your life on repeat. And what you can do about it, even if you’re a newbie.
In my experience, discovering our core beliefs and realize how they influence our choices and decisions is a necessary step in our evolutionary journey.
These beliefs subtly control our everyday life running silently in the background. They are deeply tied to our emotions and mostly responsible for our actions.
Let’s say you’ve been telling yourself you want to start saving some money. It’s a wise and common goal to have. Yet, you can’t seem to keep money in your pockets long enough to even count it, it either gets spent too fast or you seem to manifest sudden bills or unexpected expenses.
These all can stop when you transform your beliefs.
And let’s not forget that what we’re doing really is “peeling the onion”. We all know that the center of the onion (our core) is hidden under all the layers wrapped around it (beliefs of all kinds). We need to peel away the layers in order to find our true self, and finally BECOME who we were meant to be.
Here’s how to discover your limiting beliefs and change them.
#1: Our belief system influences our reality
As I was saying, our negative beliefs run our lives in many unexpected yet predictable ways – that’s how vital it is to become aware of them.
If we want to take ownership and manifest a better life for ourselves, then there are two crucial laws we must understand, and remember:
- The Law of Co-Creation: we partnered up with the Universe and its Life Force to co-create our experience – the good AND the bad. The Universe doesn’t think for us, it just supports us.
- The Law of Responsibility: we are solely responsible for our choices at any moment in time. This might be a little bit harder to swallow, I understand. But when we truly embrace it, the game really changes.
These two laws work together. In a future post, I will explore them more in-depth and further explain their influence on our life.
That time the Universe gifted me a very important lesson
In my early 20s, I had an eye-opening experience.
I was working on a big project for the City Hall. It was a great opportunity with good pay, even if it took up all of my summer and free time. When the project was finally finished, I eagerly awaited my payment to arrive in the mail. I was already dreaming of all the wonderful things I would have spent my money on.
The morning the check finally came, I was jumping up and down with excitement. I wasn’t used to having big sums of money – nor small ones, to tell the truth. Mine wasn’t a wealthy family and what I’ve learned about money so far wasn’t very empowering. But I was completely clueless at the time.
I then noticed a second envelope addressed to me, so I opened it up…to find three fines amounting to just about the same total as my reward for my hard work. I was not expecting that for sure.
At that moment I felt powerless and even more clueless as to why such an unfair thing was happening TO ME. In tears, I felt betrayed and resentful.
But a few years later, when I began exploring the real meaning of money, I realized that the Universe had offered me a very important lesson in responsibility and co-creating.
To begin with, I did not believe that money was something that I could have. My beliefs around money and wealth were limited and focused on lack because that was all I had learned about it so far. Think of your money stories as you would any other relationship: if you don’t trust it, cherish it, appreciate it, believe in it, or believe you deserve it, it will never be a happy, balanced one.
In hindsight, receiving the check (my pay), and losing it the same day should have not surprised me at all. Furthermore, I was the one who had chosen to ignore the fines for way too long, maybe hoping they would take care of themselves! My lack of responsibility played a big role in my co-creating part. The Universe generously offered me a mirror so that I could look into it and find the answer to the question: “Why is this happening TO ME?”
The answer could have been something along the lines of “Because although I can manifest more abundance, I don’t really think I deserve it – so here’s a fine to go with it. You’re welcome.”
That experience set me off to some serious soul searching and to something way more rewarding than a paycheck. Although Google was at its early stages and there weren’t many resources available on the subject of beliefs and manifesting, I finally came down to the very building blocks.
#2 Beliefs work the same for all of us
- We all have beliefs: some are useful, most of them are not
- We are unaware of most of them
- Beliefs are created after specific experiences and the following emotions and thoughts
- Thoughts are made of energy
- Energy rules everything you can think of
My spiritual journey brought me to uncover those limiting beliefs little by little. Many of them were the results of very painful experiences and traumas that I hadn’t dealt with yet. So to transform the limiting beliefs, it was necessary to heal the wounds in a deeper way.
Since my pivotal life lesson about co-creation iI told you above, I’ve come to understand and learn more about the relationship between our belief system and co-creation. And when you begin such a healing journey, there’s no going back.
#3: When you identify your beliefs, then your awareness expands
What I mean by this is that once you become aware of the patterns created by your beliefs, you can’t unsee them. And that piece of awareness will change your experience if you take action on it. That’s why I’m sharing with you:
My simple 3-step process to discover limiting beliefs and change them
- First of all, get very clear on your current situation. In other words, what are the struggles and challenges you are currently going through in any specific area of your existence? How do you want it to be like instead? Write everything down.
- Next, ask yourself: What do I think about money (since we’ve already started down this path, but you can substitute “money” with anything else really)? What are my thoughts and feelings about it?
Just to help you out, the following are a few of the most common thoughts around the subject:
“You have to work hard for your dollars”
“Money doesn’t grow on trees”
“There is never enough to go around!”
“Rich people are greedy and uncaring”
“Money is the root of all evil”
Read through them again, then check within and notice: do any of those thoughts feel true to you? Or do they feel familiar, like something you’ve been telling yourself as well?
Now think about it: none of those thoughts have a relaxed, positive, or optimistic feeling embedded in them.
So how can we feel good about creating more abundance, if our beliefs speak lack or evil? Would you say that the underlying energy is one of allowing or one of blocking abundance?
Very important: write down your own feelings and thoughts and go through the same process. You might find out that your inner responses to what you desire to create aren’t actually very supportive. Once you dig deeper and tease out your inner beliefs, you may find that they aren’t supportive of the life you WANT to be living. You might find out you feel scared, worried, or undeserving. And if this happens, it’s actually a very good thing. It means you already know what you need to address and solve to be able to get to what your heart desires.
It’s important to know that underneath those common negative beliefs, there is a whole set of heavier thoughts hiding and tying back to one’s sense of self-worth. (Yep, it goes that deep!)
Becoming aware of limiting thoughts is the first, and most important step one can take towards freedom.
And it can be as simple as asking yourself what do you think and feel about money, or marriage, or relationships, or success – whatever matters to you at this moment.
Once you’ve gained awareness, this process can be taken to the next level.
3. Decide what you would need to believe instead to change your current situation.
That’s because what we have believed so far has contributed to us creating our current reality. Thinking that money is evil will not help us make or keep more. Feeling like you can’t be friends with women, will not help your relationships. So I suggest reversing the above process and begin now with this question:
In order to manifest what I long for, what do I need to believe?
What does someone that’s good with money thinks about money? Make a list of supporting beliefs and feelings. This needs to be the new focus for your thoughts from now on. Day in and day out.
At times it might be hard to even identify the positive and supportive beliefs we need. That’s because we’ve spent so much time feeling bad about it, that we don’t remember or even know what it’s like to feel different. But with attention and consistency, we can take the first, vital steps and begin a revolutionary healing journey. If you’re willing to, you’re already way ahead of most people out there, who tend to bury their heads in the sand and blame the economy, politics, their parents, and so on.
That’s where I come in with the deeper work I do to help you discover and clear out for good those outdated ideas – while teaching you how to retrain your brain and thinking.
I’ve explored different techniques and selected the most powerful tools. I can teach you to use them with consistency.
If you’ve been complaining about your life, lack of results, or need to find passion and purpose again, please understand that this process works. It does take time and commitment on your part, like everything else. But the rewards you will reap are really worth it, and it will become easier and easier to create more of what you want and less of what you don’t.
The personal story I shared with you above is just one example of how much our belief system conditions our actions and especially the results of the actions we take. My life has changed in wondrous ways since making that commitment. The quality of my thoughts has changed. I now know when I’m disempowering myself and know what to do about it.
I wish you good luck on your healing journey. And please, let me know if you have any questions about the process I shared.
If you’re ready to get faster and lasting results, I invite you to schedule a complimentary conversation with me so I can learn more about you and show you how I can help you find and release your negative beliefs and become your true self.